3 things that are a waste of money for under motivated people.

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Written by Ashton Deroy: The worst thing I hear people express is “I am too lazy to do that.” It is especially concerning when these people move in to commitments, spending money & setting up goals. If you are one of those people who think it is a miracle just because you got out of bed this morning, then this blog probably can save you a lot of pains in the A**. Here are some things for you to avoid spending your $$$ on dumb***! 

 

Gym Memberships

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The nature of a gym membership is you pay a bi-weekly fee to gain access to a gym, their services and exercise equipment. Anyone who works in this industry will tell you the fitness life style starts in their facilities! “What a load of crap!?!” You don’t pay for the gym membership and magically become motivated to workout. 

Deadly Appeal: Sales reps act like a gym membership is a cure for obesity & laziness.

When I had one of these memberships it was literally because working out at home after work would wake my entire house up. Exercise begins with self-management. Doing push ups, sit ups, squats and yoga. All of which you can do aided by a video, not expensive gym equipment. If you can’t even hit play on an exercise video though… Don’t bother with the gym membership!

Avoiding this will save you about $70 a month or a $100 cancellation fee. 

 

Home businesses 

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It doesn’t matter if you are starting an E-Commerce shop from home or signing to work with Avon. Selling takes a lot of work, rejection & motivation! So maybe a home business is not for you… The facts are most of them do not break even, create web presence & connect with contacts. 

Deadly appeal: It is appealing to think you can make $$$ from home before you even get in your morning shower. 

Sadly though if you don’t intend to create an aggressive sales or marketing strategy you are better off not doing this. So much for opportunity, when it comes to sales based businesses. You are way better off sticking to needs based products like Insurance, Web design & graphics. 

Avoiding this could save you $30 a month minimum. 

 

Sedentary

Why does smoking come in this list? Well what this doesn’t share with the others is this is one thing you don’t usually approach to make your life better! However the deadly appeal greatly targets sedentary people. 

Deadly appeal: Smoking does not require a lot of effort & comes with social acceptance. 

The really bad downside is,

 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25150976

According to the open U.S. Medical journal smoking & a sedentary lifestyle is linked to cognitive deterioration as well as a great deal of medical issues. However there are no long term benefits to smoking so why start? Or why continue? This is the one thing on the list you rarely approach in an effort to make your life better. Unless you are one of those idiots that believe they are treating their mental health with a bong! 

(despite evidence piling up that smoking adversely affect cognitive function.

Quitting smoking could save you $1,500 a year. 

 

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3 Steps to deal with Admirers you do not want? How to deal with being an unrequited Admirer?

3 Steps to deal with Admirers you do not want

 

Ashton Deroy Writes: So a few years ago when I was attending Loyalist College in 2014. I had a girl from my old high school bugging me on Facebook about her admiration for me.

 

This got pretty bad to the point where the clingy admirer named Ashleigh started claiming things such as “If you don’t love me I will kill myself, Ashton.”

 

What is my background with this woman? I danced with her at an MVD Dance while I was attending ENSS in Brighton Ontario.

 

So we went from innocent dancing to obsession! Something that, of course, terrifies me not only as an uninterested person but as a gay man.

 

My 3 steps to dealing with an unwanted admirer.

  1. Be Direct, Tell them you just are not interested
  2. Create distance, Only execute this step after you have told the party you are not interested. Blocking someone for no reason is both cruel and confusing for the other person involved.
  3. Call the police, If someone is needy, batshit crazy or stunned like Ashleigh. You should call the police to make sure they are not dangerous to themselves or anybody else. “Yes this is a huge pain in the ass for you, but so is someone interfering with your intimate relationships.”

How to deal with being an unrequited Admirer

 

 

As I said I do sympathize with the admirers in this situation, in 2015-2016 I was head over heels for a red headed Agender person in Belleville, Ontario, Canada named Steph.

 

I mean I was head over heels for this person, I used to walk to their house in the winter just to spend time with them when I thought they were lonely.

 

Back during this time I really thought time, friendship and favors would win me their heart. What I didn’t count on was the plain & simple fact that Steph was just an ugly, messed up and sad person who I could not help.

 

How did I get over my crush which leads to nothing but pain?

 

  • Dating, Start seeing people who I find attractive and who find me attractive. I’ve met all sorts of interesting guys in the pursuit of letting go of Steph. Honestly, I would not trade these experiences for anything!
  • Moving out of their area, Distance was a must in getting over Steph. As long as I was in Belleville I was going to follow them like a lost dog. So I moved back home to Brighton then moved to Toronto.

 

  1. Blocking them on Facebook, They don’t need to see what I am doing, and I don’t need to see them. The fact that they were on Facebook and I couldn’t simply talk to them was too painful so I blocked them and just let them go.

 

Facing rejection isn’t easy, but with a fresh dose of space and new intimate relationships. I think you will find an easy answer to freedom for your mind and heart!


 

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Article 1: Keys to team work success, Article 2: Anything Dark?

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March 27th 2017, Ashton Deroy was in the Senacentre to learn about success, teamwork and project management from Shaun Vollick MEd, PMP.  This was an event organized by the Seneca College Business group which had free pizza, coffee & discussion amongst Business, Human Resources and Engineering students.

Team work agile approach Shaun Vollick proposes that the new methodology for team work should be approached with an agile approach. Constantly adapting the team to the changes of economics practices, competitors and demands of the client/customer. He does suggest this ideology is not idiot proof as it requires management to eventually produce end products to projects!

Success keys , work to not specialize, from what I gathered there needs to be more focus put on showing up communicating and delegating. A project can change in a heartbeat, think of the variables in play with any project, who is it for? What is the desired outcome? What is the research? With all of these factors projects can change in the blink of an eye. So if you can’t show up for them, you won’t succeed in them! 

Project management three general guidelines 

  1. Delegate – It is better if you don’t try to do everything yourself. Make sure everyone knows their role and its purpose. 
  2. Document – Produce minutes or record keeping of all team team meetings. 
  3. Ask for help, Give help – For school & work projects you may be learning like everyone else. Don’t be afraid of being a little lost! It sounds cliche but give help to your peers, everyone has a different learning curve. 

Need help with a marketing project? Call 647-850-6802 or email Ashtonderoy@gmail.com. Emailing before calling increasing communication accuracy! 

 

 


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Written by Ashton Deroy

Gay, Atheist and Business person

Commentary: I wrote this essay for myself because I really have not written anything creative in a while. I wanted to write something against the fake optimism we as a society are expected to conform to every day. The tone of this article is very dark. I feel that is because “Smiling” is not the key to making all of your problems go away. I consider the benefits of fake optimism more false promises than useful guidance for a higher quality life. 

I truly achieved some of my best writing, accomplishments, and attention through negative, dark & satirical works. Not from writing happy stories & articles meant to satisfy everyone. 

Instructions to operate in life: Stand to the right or left single file, use a good posture, and smile! No matter what is going on let them all see you smile because not smiling is a negative thing. You can engage in conversation with the people to your right & left but make sure they follow our “code of conduct.” Also, remember to smile because everyone likes it when you smile! Remember you live to serve and please and nothing more.

If you are in the service industry in Ontario Canada for over one year. Hopefully, you have learned to submit, be passive and compartmentalize your personal life from your professional life. Make no mistake you are a slave, you will work when you are told, follow rules and guidelines and you may not request a day off or salary increase, that is non-negotiable! Answer every inquiry with a happy to help attitude and if you are not a passive to confrontation, you better learn!

“Stop worrying about what’s scary or stressful” they will tell us!

The little Things. Toronto: Anything Bright, 2016. Print.

Once you believe that lie you are almost ready to believe the other lies of optimism to. Lies that include consuming your way to happiness, while in the same breath they will tell you to accept earning less at work because money does not equal happiness. All because this is society that would rather push two contradicting beliefs of operation rather than accept there is a real issue upon us. To be optimistic though this is to accept not being entitled to a better job, a nicer place and a more exciting romance! 

Ever sit there and wonder why are mental illness rates keep shooting upwards?

Approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S.—43.8 million, or 18.5%—experiences mental illness in a given year. Approximately 1 in 25 adults in the U.S.—9.8 million, or 4.0%—experiences a serious mental illness in a given year that substantially interferes with or limits one or more major life activities.”

NAMI. Mental Health By The Number. N.p.: National alliance on mental illness, n.d. Print. This article is to write about the prevalence and rise of mental illness in North America. Ashton Deroy is using this statistic to make a direct connection between mental illness and the type of work society does. Ashton Deroy asks When you look at this statistic, does being blindly optimistic seem logical? Or do you maybe think if something is bothering you it might be time to talk about it. That is might be time to be a little negative, hurt and just maybe it is time to feel used!

Did you think about why mental illness rates are shooting up? They aren’t, they just went unrecorded while society conformed to the comforting lies of blind optimism, god and the cloudy beautiful place we go when we die. As an atheist, I equate the belief in god as the same stupidity as blind optimism. So you can bet one of the first things I want to ask a blindly optimistic person when I meet them. “Do you believe in god?” If I were them I would be too optimistic, because I am high. My drug is religion, religion & conformity.

Religion & conformity isn’t a drug you have to shoot up, it isn’t going to give you the shakes if you go without it but it is quite mentally powerful never the less. Just look at the body count of people dying every year due to nationally enforced religious laws…. What should you think about instead of religion? Well, what is real? Are you getting paid enough? Are you getting laid enough? Are you respected to your exact liking in your place of work? Of course, these are not the fixations society wants you to have because they might just make you too uppity.

Thank you for reading this, I know this was not a comforting piece to read. However, I wanted to write it to challenge the blind optimism that encouraged time to time. Is there anything wrong with being happy? No there is nothing wrong with it. Is there anything wrong with presenting as happy all of the time? Yes, it is unauthentic and fake!

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Related works: 

https://anythingbright.wordpress.com/ – Katia writes about optimism, if you prefer the opposition in views. 

http://www.nami.org/About-NAMI/NAMI-News/24-Million-Will-Lose-Mental-Health-Coverage – Mental health help is in danger in the United States with the Health Care cuts being made by the Trump Administration.